Ready for change?

Change is hard to do. There has to be motivation for that change and when it is not there, change fails. So how can we go about ensuing that you have the real change?

Lets take a look at your motivation, as it is this factor above all else that prompts change. And how do we get to a place of motivation. The easiest way to think about this is to examine the reason(s) why you want to do things differently for your personal transformation.

Negative energy is where most people are at. I reckon about 80% of people live their lives negatively. This means there is Anger, Sadness and Fear which dominates their lives. And maybe you don't want to live like that - beneath the veil of negativity.

For me, in 1998, I realised that I needed to get away from the hurt that was pervading my life. When I was 4 days old I was taken into foster care, awaiting an adoption placement. This started my life of misery. So when the opportunity came up for examining this (another blog), I leapt at the chance. I felt I was doing everything wrong. I wasn't liked, I was not a good mother, at work I was controlling as I was at home. When we are like this we stand at the brink of the Void. Thinking about throwing yourself into the Void results in suicide, and I didn't want to do that, I had responsibilities to stay with my two children, my husband and my career. Adoptees have a higher rate of suicide than the normal population, precisely due to the harm that is done to them at birth or shortly after. And it is said that this primal wound is the worst psychological damage that there is. Not only that, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) sets in. Imagine that! A little baby with PTSD. Yet it happens to us adoptees.

So my motivation was clear to me for my emotional healing. Do anything in my power to stay away from that negativity. When times were hard and extremely difficult with my desire for change, for instance when my husband left me within weeks, I could have fallen back into misery, but I didn't. Because I didn't want to lead my life as before. When it was pointed out to me that I didn't trust, I rebelled at first, then afterwards I realised that it was right, I couldn't trust people or my environment or my future. This was the last step for me to do and it was very hard. Make no mistake, changing yourself is extremely difficult.

The process that I went through that I put together is the Vapourise Technique and it took 6 months for me to change my life and release all my stress. Others have the Vapourise Technique ready made on the website and it now takes only 3 weeks for their mindset shift, even less if more time can be spent doing it. How do I know that I have changed? Well there are indicators, one of them is lying, including social white lies. I have only once told a lie since my healing. It was in 2001, I felt so ashamed that I fronted up to the person concerned and admitted what I had done the next day. Letting go of the past and its negative habits, replaced with positive behaviours that reconnect the individual with their social and familial groups. It is indeed a very happy place and calming to be. And when life throws us stress, we can step out of it and deal with it positively rather than the hurtful ways of before our change.

Understanding what you want in life is the sign for change